In college I lived minutes away from my best friends, in some cases they were right next door. If I was bored, wanted to hang out, or needed a little girl talk, all I had to do is walk 2 doors down, it was that easy. I often miss the simplicity of friendships from when we were younger, it wasn’t hard making time for your friends. In reality being with your friends almost came before school and other activities, but now as an adult, with all of the responsibilities that come with life, finding time for your friends can be difficult; and that is when they are in the same city as you. Long distance friendships are a whole other story.
I have had the fortune in my life to make friends who are from all over the world. It gives me other points of view and experiences I may not have had otherwise. But, this means I have friends now that live scattered across the country, even the world and that can make maintaining that friendship difficult. There may be miles, states and time zones between us but, that doesn’t mean we have to give up on these friendships. They still can be developed and even strengthened from afar. Being far away from your closest friends doesn’t mean you stop being close; it only means you have to find new ways to keep the friendship alive.
It takes effort.
Long-distance friendships aren’t always easy. There will be times where you don’t talk very often, or you don’t feel as connected as you used to. But don’t let that discourage you. Sometimes long-distance friendships will take more effort, but that isn’t a bad thing. And I’ve found with many of my best friends we may not speak for weeks on end but when we do it is like nothing as changed, and we just pick up where we left off.
Technology is your friend.
We are so lucky in this day in age to have Facebook, Instagram, Snapchat, Facetime, Skype … and the list goes on and on and on. Keeping in touch is easier than it has ever been. Make your you take advantage of all the ways to keep in contact, you have no excuse not to.
Even the little moments help.
Every communication with your friend doesn’t have to be significant or noteworthy. Tag your friend in a funny video on Facebook, or send them a snap chat or a photo of what you are doing. The main point of this is that if you are thinking of them, let them know! It is always nice, even if its just a simple text saying ‘I miss you’ or ‘Thinking of you.’
Plan in-person time.
Skype conversations really are a great way to feel like you are ‘with’ someone even when you are in different places. But, sometimes you need the real thing, sitting on the same couch or at the same table in a restaurant, catching up in person. I know that sometimes that is easier said than done when you are many miles away. But, it is important to make seeing each other a priority – even if it only happens every few years. You can plan trips to visit each others homes and cities, or you can visit new places somewhere in between. It doesn’t matter, as long as you are doing it together.
Do you have long distance friendships? What are the best ways you’ve found to keep the friendship alive? Let me know in the comments below.