Time sure does fly when you are having fun! Today is mine and José’s second wedding anniversary. Sometimes it seems like just yesterday that we got married and others I feel like it has been much longer (I mean this in a good way ha!). At times it has been a difficult two years, dealing with US bureaucracy with José’s green card, job and career woes and even some deaths in the family. I know its cliché but weathering those hard times have made our relationship stronger. But, we’ve had more than our fair share of good times too, and some amazing adventures in these two years too, Seattle, NYC, Mexico, Costa Rica, Paraguay, with many more to come.
Two years doesn’t seem like a long time in the grand scheme of things, when there is hopefully a lifetime of anniversaries ahead of us. Especially when we have parents who have given us such high bars to live up to. My parents have been married almost 38 years and José’s parents just celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary right before Christmas. So, instead of taking any relationship advice from me, with my 2 years of experience take if from them.
Joyce (My Mother) – “If I had any words of wisdom, it would be to always remember to respect each other. Hear each other out; listen and learn from one another. And that business about not going to bed mad at each other? In my opinion that’s bunk. Sometimes you just go to sleep. You might find that what you were mad about just isn’t’ that important in the light of day.
Keith (My Father) – “Always, take a breath”
Ilda (José’s Mother) and José (José’s Father) – “Sincere dialogue above all other things. Show affection. Avoid small fights in front of other people, and wait to talk about it later in private. Don’t let small misunderstandings become big arguments, remember that in a couple there are two different histories (backgrounds, educations, cultures, experiences, etc)
With all this advice and good examples Jose and I will make it to 50 years in no time!